Normally what the sites offer is a free trial period of say three days, or the opportunity to create a free profile. If you have a profile other members can see it and contact you. Usually this includes the ability to send you messages. If they reply in kind you know they are interested before you sign up. Luckily, absolutely free dating sites exist and they have a whole lot to offer. One of the best and most popular features of a dating site is free online dating chat.
Stephen asks: "I am trying to find a 'real' adult dating site. Amateur Match is one for sure. The people on there either do not exist or are trumped up. I sent the company an email to complain, but they didn't reply. There has to be a legitimate adult dating site out there.
Maybe you're the one feeling more all-in than your partner. Maybe you just need some space from someone who is feeling you a little harder than you're feeling him or her. Both scenarios suck, and ultimately, that uneven dynamic in your relationship is what your problem is.